Female Sexual Fantasies - Our Secret Garden

Female sexual fantasies has long been a taboo topic. Indeed, it wasn't until the mid 70s that Western society even acknowledged that women had sexual fantasies, mainly thanks to the pioneering research by Nancy Friday. Her book My Secret Garden featured interviews with everyday women, each describing her various sexual imaginings.

My Secret Garden was a shock to many people - both men and women. Men had assumed that women were asexual creatures who wouldn't dream of thinking naughty thoughts in bed. As late as 1973, a sexologist was reported by Cosmopolitan as saying "Women by and large are devoid of sexual fantasies." And when faced with the idea that the woman they were fucking might be thinking of someone other than them, a lot of men either become very anxious, or simply deny the existence of such fantasies. Friday tells the story of one "ladies man" who said: "All the women I've ever fucked haven't needed fantasies."

Women were stunned to realize they weren't the only ones having dirty ideas. A lot felt guilty that they were fantasising about taboo topics, or that they were even thinking of another person while in bed with their husband. And many thought they were weird because society basically told them that women didn't have fantasies.

Friday's book revealed an entire pantheon of women's sexual fantasies. Her two subsequent books, Forbidden Flowers and Women on Top, added to the list. The fantasies cover such broad territory, it can be difficult to categorize them. However, here's a small list of the most popular ones:

1. Sex with a stranger.
2. Men in uniform
3.Dominition of other, or by others
4. Having sex in front of an audience
5. Group sex
6. Two men at once

Interestingly, a lot of women talked about non-consensual sex. A rape fantasy may ring alarm bells, but rest assured, it's not really about being raped. No woman wants to be forced in real life. In fantasy, however, non-consensual sex is a means of removing guilt and inhibition. This fantasy is really about being forced into pleasure, rather than sex. It's about someone MAKING you come, whether you want it or not. Obviously this is hugely different to real rape.

Nancy Friday's book makes for very erotic reading. I recommend it. If you're more into seeing female fantasies in visual form, check out Female Fantasies. This major adult site for women offers over 1000 photos of couples and hunky straight men, depicting fantasy scenarios and imaginings made real.

This article also appears at Sex for Women Info

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